Wednesday, January 27, 2010

Dilemma

As you know from the previous post I have been busy. Busy trying to not be hurt because cute neighbour guy doesn't know what he wants. For a few weeks it was all full on and then I asked him outright if he was willing to be my boyfriend. I know that you're not supposed to do this but really seven months is long enough surely to decide if you like a person enough to do more than have a cuppa with them. I knew after the first week but then I do tend to operate at super sonic speed. His answer was vague and confusing, so I took it to be a resounding NO. Luckily having wept several continents previously I was able to avoid being washed away this time. I met someone else online and we decided to meet. It was fun, it was relaxed and it definitely has potential to continue. So we met severl more times and then he asked to meet the kids. Then my youngest let slip to cute neighbour guy mummy had a boyfriend. Funnily enough cute neighbour guy's reaction was that he thought he was my boyfriend. Maybe I'd skipped off to another planet during that discussion!! He then said he was ready to see where things might take us, if I wanted to.
My dilemma, what if he's only doing this because he doesn't want anyone else to have me. Should I trust him given that he's inadvertently hurt me twice now. My heart says him, regardless of the pain, but my head says new guy is a much happier and healthier option. See how dizzy my head is with it all.

15 comments:

At Home Mommy Knits said...

I wish I had some wonderful words of advice or at the very least a crystal ball so I could tell you what will happen. Best of luck in your decision!

Sal said...

I would go with happy and healthy... and stick with your new guy, see how that works out.
Your neighbour guy sounds like he does not know what he wants.
;-) xxx

Chocolate Cat said...

I am not giving you any advice about this but I hope whatever you decide you are happy, you deserve it!

Leahdis said...

Hi, I see your having troubles and I hope they work them selves out for u. Im your swap partner for the Magic Yarn swap...Ive tryed emailing and was hoping you could send me your address so I can pop it in the post to you and hopefully brighten your day just a little! Cheers and hugs Leah

Thimbleanna said...

Shoot. I hate it when stuff like this happens. I hope you're a better decision maker than I am. Good Luck whatever you decide -- and let us know how you're doing!

Elizabeth said...

Cute (but on the fence) neighbour MAY have seen the light at the prospect of losing you OR this could just be a knee jerk reaction on his part and it will pass.
Only time will tell.
This is like East Enders only with better knit-wear! We are rooting for your happiness, either way!

Tracy said...

Great to have you back in blogland, Ally! But so sorry you've been hurting due to Cute Neighbour Guy...And you so happy! Cute Guy sounds very on the fence all of a sudden. Why to guys do that?! Perhaps Cute Guy needed a little push? But not fair as he has hurt you twice now with all this. Having experienced such--once upon a time before finding lovely Dear Husband-- the non-committed type continues to hurt. Try the New Guy out--healthier and happier sounds wonderful. Listen to what your gut tells you. Don't be afraid, trust your instincts. Either way I hope very much for a happy outcome for you! Wishing you all the best... Be around when you can. :o) ((HUGS))

Linda said...

Oh no. What a decision to make. If it was me I would want to know hat was happening and would ask mr neighbour exactly what he wanted and tell him my feelings, then see what happened from there.
Best wishes. x

Channon said...

Well, since I'm still learning to trust my intuition, I hesitate to say anything at all, but... How 'bout if I just say a prayer that it all works out as it should?

Anonymous said...

Men do know what they want. They just want to be the ones to act on it. Despite forty years of womens' lib, some things just never change. You've shown your cards. The next move is up to him. And it should be clear and straightforward and not subject to 'interpretation.' Until and IF then, happy and healthy sounds great.
Do not allow yourself to be 'dangled'. Chloe

Alison Gibbs said...

Ally do what ever makes 'you feel happy'
Alison

Rachael Rabbit said...

ahhh love ... painful ... but it makes the world go around x

t does wool said...

I wish I had the perfect words...trust your heart...

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